Perhaps one of the more potent “ah-ha” moments I’ve had on my exploration of control was the need to be realistic. If you can’t step back from a situation and view it realistically then you’ve given up a portion of your control. You’ll continue to live in a fantasy of perception unable or outright unwilling to see how it really is.
Recently I reviewed my finances and realized I was paying $900 a year for a storage unit. When I got the unit I told myself that it was to clear out my apartment and enjoy a less cluttered space. Being more realistic I now see the unit as a way to avoid dealing with crap and collections from a past life and paying for the privilege of ignoring it. With that revelation I emptied my unit and have forced myself to go through everything. Being realistic has also helped me in deciding what goes and what stays.
FreemanFrancis 